Some Day My Prince Will Come

Some day my prince will come/ Some day we'll meet again/ And away to his castle we'll go/  To be happy forever I know/ Some day when spring will be here/ We'll find our love anew/ And the birds will sing/ And wedding bells will ring/ Some day when my dreams come true                     -Snow White: Some Day My Prince Will Come 

I'm not wishing for a prince, just the happily ever after. Realistically, we don't live in a Snow White world and I don't want to. We won't meet our true love face to face singing in the woods only to marry him the next day. Instead, we're more like  Mulan or Giselle. We actually meet our future husbands before breaking into song and marrying him. I am a firm believer in true love, don't get me wrong, but to think that you'll meet Prince Charming singing in the woods is unrealistic.

Love shouldn't be hard work, it should come naturally. I'm not saying that you'll find true love sitting at home watching television all day, but you shouldn't have to work at it excessively. True love should be between two people and it should just happen over time, not in a period of 1 hour and 26 minutes (sorry, Disney lied). Of course, what do I know? I'm only seventeen and I have never experienced what true love really feels like, yet I know enough that it should not be forced. A girl shouldn't have to leave behind her old life just to get a guy.

Rationally speaking, you should be listening to those furry animals who you've known forever, not Prince Charming who you just met 30 seconds ago.  Of course, when you're in love you think irrationally. I know. Your heart is overwhelmed and your head is fuzzy, but those furry animals have a perspective that you don't have and only want your best. Well.. first you have to talk to those furry animals. They won't know anything if you don't tell them. Sure they'll realize something is happening in your life, but their not mind readers. Open yourself up to the ones you trust. Stop. Breathe. Think. Take time off of that happy melody and think for one verse if you're doing what is best for you. Spur of the moment decisions are more romantic, but are they always worth it? Ask Romeo and Juliet how that went for them.

Romantic? Yes? But do I want to die over someone I met a week ago? Not really. Love doesn't happen in a short time, but it builds up and progresses as time goes on. Again, I do believe in true love... but love at first sight is another thing. I understand undying love for a man you absolutely can not live without, but how absolutely-can-not-live-without is that boy you've only known for a few weeks/months (or days by Disney's term)? Yes, I'll look into a guy's eyes and think that they could be the one. You can't determine your soul mate solely by looks, you have to know the person first (thank you Belle for teaching kids something that Snow White, Aura and Cinderella did not). He may have kind eyes and a tender smile, but that same gorgeous man can also dump you right after he gets in your pants.

Okay, enough of me bashing love. I am in love with the idea of being in love, but I won't change myself for it. The concept of love is beautiful and media just emphasizes this fact even more considering  70% of songs not about drugs or sex are either about being in love or the heartbreaks that can come with it. Watch any show or movie, some character is experiencing at least one of the two. Listen to any song, love is mentioned at least once. The concept of love is not overrated; however, forcing love upon yourself so you can experience it doesn't work. You gain the love of a man... but as you change to obtain this love, do you realize that you risk the love of your family and/or friends?

Finding your own Prince Charming is possible and I guarantee it will happen to you one day. Just don't rush it. Things like this take time. True love will only come if you be yourself. If you find the one, it doesn't matter how your happy ending plays. Get married and have kids, stay devoted partners, just move in with each other, it doesn't matter as long as you're together.

(Note: Even Disney is realizing its mistake for the falsehood of love at first sight thanks to Once Upon A Time giving the girls (especially the older ones) a real background)